To work with victims of „invisible” abuse, to tackle the family history of resistance to abuse vs giving into it and the consequences: depression, suicide attempt and the very strong need to keep resisting and pointing out what male abuse towards women is and understanding the beginnings of it: women as weaker sex, pressure on men in patriarchal country to „provide, support financially, invade, take charge” and on women to „care, calm, wait, give way, make space, step back” and the lack of support for mothers who want to work, never being able to „climb the ladder” and make as much money as men. Financial support from men as a trap to keep women submissive, women feeling inferior and like they need to succumb to someone who is supporting them. All these things happening usually after marriage and children as that triggers in us the behaviors we learned from watching our parents
Resistance to invisible abuse and consequences of not resisting
Writing as weapon against abuse.
Continuing on this thought, adding some more thoughts on this straight after my therapy session. I wonder how to be able to talk to, listen to, interact with mothers, victims of male abuse, without letting it get to me too much. My therapist mentioned many women, who work with very difficult cases before having children, are not able to to that after becoming mothers. Something changes, something shifts, it is very difficult to not identify with the victims, not take on their problems. That the main thing I should think about when making a decision to take on the task of working with the victims of abuse, is how to take care of myself first, how to protect myself from their problems getting to me too much. That is a pretty important thing to think about I guess.